Every Boy I Ever Kissed

Sex was supposed to be easy. It was supposed to be fun, liberating, and empowering for a girl who’d been brought up thinking the battle for sexual equality had been won. But for Nellwyn Lampert, losing her virginity would turn out to be anything but simple. Her chosen partners struggled with porn-induced erectile dysfunction and other crises of masculinity. And in the bedroom, nothing went according to plan. Instead, Nellwyn had to learn to navigate the realities of sexual liberation, female empowerment, and masculinity all on her own.

In this coming-of-age memoir, Nellwyn looks back on her experiences with humour and insight to explore what true liberation and empowerment may look like for today’s young women. Her many unexpected adventures will prompt reflection on a bigger question: What does it mean when our experiences fail to live up to who we think we should be as liberated, postmodern women?

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  • For the first twenty-one years of my life, I pursued love and beauty as aggressively as I pursued academic excellence and some kind of undefined creative career.

    Every Boy I Ever Kissed

  • We lay together like that for such a long time. Me holding him while he cried softly. I didn’t let go and he didn’t pull away.

    Every Boy I Ever Kissed

  • I guess being a part of someone’s life story is the opposite of casual.

    Every Boy I Ever Kissed

  • “Mom!” I said, marching into her studio. “I was serious. I can buy my own condoms.”

    Every Boy I Ever Kissed

  • “I think I relate to this book more than any other book I've ever read.”

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  • “I've never been moved to write a review before, but this book was so wonderful, I needed you to know about it! I found myself laughing and crying along with her and before I knew it, it was 4 a.m.”

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  • “Once you start reading, it's hard to put down. It feels like the author is sitting right by you, sipping tea and telling you stories - some hilarious, some frustrating, and all so relatable.”

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  • “Nellwyn’s ability to gracefully weave feminist theory into this charming memoir makes Every Boy I Ever Kissed both an enjoyable and intelligent read.”

    Jen McNeely | She Does the City